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Beginner Basics: Prostate Massage

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Let’s get into the wonderful world of prostate pleasure.

We’ll answer all your questions about the male G-spot: the what, the where and the why.

Following up with tips, toys and tricks so you can milk that prostate dry and potentially have the



of your life.

What is the Prostate?

The prostate is a small, walnut-sized gland located just below the bladder and in front of the rectum in those assigned male at birth.

It’s a key player in the reproductive system, whipping up a special fluid that mixes with sperm from the testicles and other gland goodies to create semen.

This prostatic potion not only nourishes and protects those speedy swimmers but is also essential for fertility.

Where is the Prostate?

The prostate(1) is a small gland located just below the bladder(2), in front of the rectum and wraps around the urethra like a doughnut.

The beauty of the prostate is that it can be pleasured in a multitude of different ways.

You can stimulate it externally by adding steady pressure on the perineum or internally through the rectum.

illustration of male anatomy showing prostate and bladder

Why it’s called the Male G-spot

The prostate is often referred to as the male G-spot because, like the female G-spot, it’s an erogenous zone packed with nerve endings. This makes it super sensitive to touch and pressure.

If you do a thorough prostate massage, you might be rewarded with full-body orgasms that are a whole different ball game compared to penile ones.

Prepping for prostate massage

There are a few things you should be aware of before you dive into anal play:

  • Anal play should never hurt: slow down or stop if you’re having too much discomfort.
  • Partner play necessities: you should communicate both before and after anal play, e.g. expectations, worries, what you liked and what’s not for you.
  • Things can get messy: back door exploring always has the potential to get messy, but there are things you can do to try and prevent mess as much as possible (below).
  • Prostate play doesn’t guarantee orgasm: you might not have a prostate orgasm the first time or even the first few times without any other forms of stimulation.
  • Arousal is essential: when the penis fills with blood, it helps to relax the tissues and muscles around the prostate, making playing easier and more comfortable.
  • Take time to play: with your penis, your balls, or whatever gets you going the most.
  • We always recommend douching at least 30 minutes before any anal play. You can read more about how to douche here.
illustration of 3 men in different positions for prostate play

How to milk your prostate like a pro

You or a special someone else can locate the male G-spot, and you can choose whether you want to use beginner anal sex toys or work with what you have (fingers).

  1. Start by getting into a position you feel comfortable in. Some popular options are lying on your side, squatting, or lying on your back with your legs bent.
  2. Next, use some anal lube and lube up both the finger or toy and the rim of your backdoor. Use more than you think you need!
  3. Then slowly slide your choice into the rectum; if you use a finger try curling it towards your belly button about 2-3 inches inside.
  4. You should feel a small, walnut-sized bump when you reach your destination.
  5. Congrats! You just found the prostate.
  6. Finally, we’re at the best part: Try moving the toy or your finger with circular rubbing, tapping, or steady pressure. Go with whatever feels best.

If you’re with a partner, don’t forget the aftercare—cleaning up together, cuddling, pillow talk, or even sharing some snacks can make the experience even sweeter.

Choosing the Right Prostate Toys

Start small and go for silicone toys, which are soft, flexible and perfect for beginners. Look for ones with a curved shape to easily reach the prostate and a bulbous head for targeted pleasure.

We would recommend using a prostate stimulator set so you can experiment and go up in size when you feel comfortable enough to do so.

Spice things up with vibration, remote control options, or dual stimulation for both the perineum and prostate. Whether it’s prostate-specific toys, anal beads for incremental pleasure, or butt plugs as a starting point, there’s a treasure trove of options to explore.

Toys should be treated the same as fingers, they should be cleaned both before and after, and you should use more lube than you think you need, both on the toy itself and the rim of your anus.

Don't forget to choose toys with a flared base so nothing gets lost back there!

illustration of many different prostate and anal sex toys in orange, black and blue

Benefits of prostate massage

Regular prostate pampering has a host of benefits, such as:

  • Increased Sex Drive
  • Enhanced Stamina
  • Ejaculation Control
  • Prostate Orgasms
  • Stress Relief
  • Body Confidence
  • Early Detection of Changes

By exploring your backdoor, you also can have stronger erections, better stamina, full body orgasms and improved control over ejaculation, and the cherry on top is a hefty dose of endorphins!

To wrap it up

And there you have it! You've completed our booty boot camp by understanding the crucial role of the prostate, its benefits, the toys and techniques you can use, and more!

Whether you’re flying solo or enjoying the experience with a lucky someone, remember to approach the male G-spot with curiosity, care, and an open mind!

Until next time, happy exploring!

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