The best LGBTQ+ toys are usually the most flexible ones. They are designed for different bodies, different dynamics, and different kinds of pleasure. Some focus on penetration, others on grinding, prostate stimulation, shared vibrations, or hands-free teasing.
This guide covers some of the best gay sex toys, best lesbian sex toys, and best sex toys for shared pleasure - whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner.
And if you want a broader introduction to queer intimacy, identities, and attraction, you can also check out our LGBTQ+ guide.
What Makes a Sex Toy LGBTQ+ Friendly?
Not every toy needs to look ultra-realistic to feel good.
In fact, many LGBTQ+-friendly sex toys focus more on function and versatility than gendered design. That means curved shapes, abstract designs, and toys that work across multiple bodies and erogenous zones - whether that’s the prostate, G-spot, clitoris, nipples, or external stimulation.
The best queer-friendly toys are usually:
Versatile and body-inclusive
Designed for different types of stimulation
Easy to use solo or with a partner
Comfortable across different positions and dynamics
Less focused on traditional gender roles
Best Toys for Shared Pleasure
These are some of the best sex toys for gay couples and lesbian couples who want something they can genuinely enjoy together.
Double-Ended Dildo
The RealRock Crystal Clear Double-Ended Dildo is ideal for partner play, simultaneous stimulation, and experimenting with new positions together. Its curved, flexible shape makes movement feel more natural, whether you’re exploring vaginal, anal, or mixed stimulation.
FROT Massager
Cockblock FROT Massager for Couples is designed specifically for shaft-to-shaft stimulation. The textured inner sleeve allows both partners to glide together while maintaining close body contact and natural movement. Great for frotting, grinding, and side-by-side play.
Double Joy Dildo
The curved design on the Sinful Double Joy Silicone Double Dildo focuses on internal stimulation and shared movement rather than realism, making it a great option for couples who prefer versatile toys with a more abstract look and feel.
Best Toys for Anal Play
Anal pleasure isn’t limited to one identity, body type, or relationship dynamic.
Prostate Stimulator
The curved shape on Aneros Helix Syn V Vibrating Prostate Stimulator helps target the prostate comfortably, while the multiple vibration settings make it easy to explore different sensations at your own pace. Great for solo sessions or partnered play.
G&P Dildo Stimulator
This Steel G&P Dildo Stimulator from Sinful is designed to target both the G-spot and prostate with its curved shape and weighted feel. Because it doesn’t rely on realistic anatomy, it works beautifully across different bodies and preferences. The smooth steel can also be warmed or cooled for extra sensation during play.
Cock Ring with Prostate Stimulator
If you want to experience two sensations at the same time, you should try the Sinful Cock Ring with Prostate Stimulator. It combines a stretchy cock ring with a curved prostate stimulator, creating stronger erections alongside targeted internal stimulation. Perfect for solo sessions or partnered sex.
Best Toys for Grinding, Scissoring, and Strap-on Play
Whether you’re into grinding, strap-on play, teasing vibrations, or hands-free fun, these toys are designed to make pleasure feel even better.
Strap-on Dildo
This Remote-Controlled Strap-On Dildo from Sinful is designed for shared stimulation from both sides. The wearer gets internal and clitoral stimulation while the receiving partner enjoys penetration and vibrations. The remote control also adds an extra playful dynamic during partner sessions. A strong contender among the best lesbian sex toys for couples.
Sit-On Vibrator
The Rocks Off Niya N5 Remote Controlled Sit-On Vibrator is designed for grinding, pillow play, and hands-free teasing. The flexible flaps soften and spread the vibrations while the ridges add extra stimulation. Perfect for solo sessions, partnered grinding, or scissoring-inspired play.
Thigh Strap-On
One of the most creative toys in this guide is the Dual Penetration Thigh Strap-On from Sportsheets. The thigh-mounted design opens the door to grinding, riding, and hands-free partner play without relying on traditional harness setups. It also works well for different mobility needs and body types.
Best Versatile Sex Toys for LGBTQ+ Couples
Some sex toys work beautifully across almost every dynamic.
Magic Wand
Magic wands work for external stimulation almost anywhere on the body - clitoris, nipples, perineum, thighs, and more. The Sinful Luxy Extra Powerful Magic Wand combines powerful vibrations with a soft silicone head and cordless freedom.
Blowjob Machine
Instead of focusing on realism, this Blowjob Machine from Sinful prioritises texture, movement, and intense sensation through its ribbed internal sleeve and automated stroking motion. It delivers hands-free stimulation with a more neutral design approach
Clitoral Stimulator
Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 2 is still one of the most popular sex toys out there. The air pulse stimulation creates focused clitoral pleasure that works brilliantly during solo sessions, foreplay, or partnered teasing. Compact, simple, and extremely effective.
